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WARNING SIGNS & PSYCHIC PROTECTION

This week I am going to take a closer look at psychic protection.  Now I know I have talked about it almost every time I’m on the air, but this week I am going to break it down a little for you.  So you can learn to understand the warning signs a little better.

The book, Thorsons’ Way of Psychic Protection, by Judy Hall, gives a check list of symptoms you may be feeling that indicate you need to cleans your aura and fortify it.  If you suffer from any of these things, it will be wise to consider some energy work on your aura and to learn to protect yourself psychically.

This list includes some situations that will require you to be protected, such as:

  • Working closely with other people.
  • Using recreational drugs,
  • Do people bring their troubles to you?
  • Maybe you give allot of energy to other people, or certain people or places leave you feeling drained.
  • You may be sensitive to atmospheres or you may not be very grounded in the earth and in your body,
  • Maybe you cry easily or feel low if a friend is depressed or unhappy.  Maybe there is more to that, you might even feel disturbed if a friend is angry.
  • What about accidents, have lots of those?  Maybe lots of little things have been going wrong or you lose things.
  • Poor sleep or nightmares?  Anxious and nervy allot of the time?  Maybe you are afraid to relax or you are suffering from perpetual tiredness.

(A bit more creepy now:)

  • Have you been glancing over your shoulder because you felt watched but there was no-one there?  Or did you feel invaded or somehow not yourself.
  • Maybe you’ve been sick allot recently or you are going over things again and again in your mind.
  • Maybe you feel animosity from someone towards you or you feel that they may have it in for you?
  • And finally do you find it hard to say no?

There is allot there and that’s not all that Thorsons’ Way of Psychic Protection suggest.  But what they do say is that if you answered yes to two or more of these questions, it is more than likely that you need to up your psychic protection.

Of course, it is important that if you are going through any of these issues, you seek professional medical advice,

Now, having said that, I would also suggest, that from the advanced to the novice psychic alike ,  if any of these symptoms are troubling you, you go and see a well trained energy practitioner to lift the negative energy source from your Auric field and fortify that aura.  One of my mentors from years ago, told me of a very successful spiritual professional who came to her for a Reiki treatment.  This lady had not been cleansing and clearing her aura in between readings and she had built up such a residual field of negative energy from helping people with their problems that when my mentor released it from her, it shattered her huge rock of rose quartz!

I have described how to give yourself psychic protection many times in the past.  You can find a meditation on it in the archives of my Blogs   If you need help with clarification on this subject then feel free to contact me or any other spiritual professional.  If they are ethical, they will know what to do and they will help.

 Below is a link to an archived blog that goes in depth into practising psychic protection. 

Psychic Protection (as addressed to the Deception Bay Spiritual Church,19.06.11)   http://wp.me/p1yNRK-2B

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Thoughts on Spiritual Experiences

Most of you who are reading this, would have had at least one spiritual experience in your lifetime. But for those of you who havn’t had one, I feel promted to talk about it.  Spirituality is a reality,  for human beings.  Science is beginning to catch up to knowledge that many philosophers and spiritual masters have long known for a long, long time, and  it is just now that science has the technology to prove it.  So I think it would be safe to say that there are many atheistic scientist out there,  having spiritual experinces right now and they are not even awear of it.

Spiritual energy is a very subtle vibration, it is the energy in the space between atoms and nucleases and protons.  It is the most potent of all the energy in the Universe, yet it is the least visible to the human eye.  However, it is also very, very percievable to the human animal.  I call us animals here, because at our most primative level, we are hard wired to see, hear and feel spiritual energy.  We get instincts, we get bristles on the backs of our necks, we just know something and have to act.  This is all a transference of spiritual energy.

Quantum physics is now beginning to understand this and of course many of you would have seen the DVD seriese that started with ‘What the Bleep Do We Know’ which came out around the same time as ‘The Secret’.

So spiritual energy is easily transfered to us and within us, but how do we know it?  Well as you know, we are the ghost that drives the machine.  We are a spiritual being in a physical body.  The scientists can measure the activity of the brain. But they cannot find the mind. Yet it exists.  It exists within a body, within a body, within a body, within a body.   Homeopathy teaches us that we have four bodies, the physical body, the emotional body, the mental body and the spiritual body.  The mind is held in part, within each of these bodies.

So, back to a spiritual experience.  The most obvious to talk about would be the sighting of a ghost.  How many of you have seen one?  It’s a chilling thing.  We normally expect to see people in physical, not energetic form!

Parapsychology famously discribes being in the presence of a ghost as feeling a cold chill in the air.  And sometimes that is the case, but I have found not always.  Ghosts don’t care about the temperature. They want is energy. They are hungry for it.   When you see one, you may see a cloud of white or dark energy, or you may see a blob or an orb of differnt coloured energy.  Some orbs are good, some are not.  You may see an apparition or a see through person, (like a film negative), or you may not see anything at all.  Sometimes, you will feel someone looking at you, or one time I was at a friend’s place and suddenly I felt a male energy lean across the table and breath a gahstly breath in my face.   Another time, I just heard a loud and clear physical voice.    Ghosts are more often seen, heard or in my case smelt, because there are lots of them hanging around.  This kind of spiritual experince, is often what sends someone looking for more answers.

When you see your guide or an angelic being, however, you may feel frightened at first, but you very quickly beign to feel exhilarated.  They will uplift you and fill you with wonder.

I set out writting this comment with the intentions of dicribing a spiritual experince and as I’ve writen it, I’ve realised that having a spiritual experience is like tasting chocolate.  Another person can tell you it tastes nice, but they cannot discribe to you, how it will taste for you, only you can experience that.  Food science  can  prove the differnt scented notes in the chocolate, but the flavour and smell can not be tranfered into your mouth via words. So too, you must experience a spiritual encounter for yourself, in order for you to gain a full understanding.

Spiritual experinces are varied from scarey and horrid to exhillarating and amazing.  Your own life philosophy will dictate to you how you deal with it.   Odds on, in this day and age, you will have a spiritual experince or you will generate spiritual energy via meditation or thought transference. Remember to keep the knowledge,  that as the alive one,  you are in control, you have the power. Spirituality is not to be messed with.  So chose to move within the spiritual realm wisely.

Much Love

Cat Edwards

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Persuasive Charity

Yesterday (28.05.12) I received a package in the mail from a charity.  Now like most people in the western world, I get bombarded by charities a lot.  I have chosen one charity to support at this time, because it makes sense to me to support them, but also, because I have  a budget.  Last Christmas I had desperate charities sending me blank Xmas cards  to use and then billing me for them, even though I hadn’t ordered the cards; I have charities ringing me up, being very firm,  in a polite way, pushing me for money and being consistently demanding.  Even the charity I do support has been asking me to commit to more money in donations.  All of this pushiness has made me feel a bit annoyed.  Like most people, I care about the recipients of my donation, that is why I do it.  However, I do not care for the at times begging  and soliciting behaviour  that some charities are conducting.  We are all hurting.  I know that in Australia, on paper there are lots of wealthy people and we got through the GFC with a big tick, but we have a massive cost of living.  For people earning 100 thousand dollars a year, who have a family, it is hard to get by, because the cost of living is so high.

Now this package I received had a Koala toy in it and some paper work along, with a bill, so I immediately thought they were soliciting money out of me and I felt outraged.  By yesterday I was all charitied out  and I was not going to have this anymore.  I told them so, too, on their Facebook page.

Well,  late last night, after a business meeting, my partner and I got home and I showed him this solicitous package.  He said, ‘Oh great it came!’ ‘I was supposed to intercept it though and give it to you myself.  I donated to them as a gift to you and this bear and certificate are yours. ‘  Well how much of a big old mean dumb bum did I feel?!!!  I made a complete ass of myself, because of the feelings I was harbouring about the behaviour of other charities.  This was a legitimate package, from a legitimate organisation.

I have aspirations myself of starting a charity, but with an eco-business funding it.  I care about the people and the animals that the donations go to, in charities everywhere.  However, the behaviour of some of those who wish to help others in need, in my opinion, needs to be reviewed, because it taints the minds of people who would genuinely be their greatest supporters.  I am not a perfect person, yesterday was proof of that.  My lovely man donated on my behalf as a gesture of love.   Last night  I took that toy koala and cuddled it in bed , because it was the right thing to do, for my partner’s sake.

How do you feel about the behaviour of charities and if you are a regular donor, who do you donate to and why?

Much Love

Cat Edwards

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A Definition of Beauty

Today, I want to do something a little different.   I want to bring someone else into the Spiritual Comment.  I am not the only spiritual teacher out there and I certainly don’t say I am the most learned.  One of my favourite spiritual teachers is the late Khalil Gibran and I wanted to share with  you a passage from his book ‘The Prophet Collection’.  If you are not familiar with this book, it is the story of a prophet who is preparing to leave the town of Orphalese.  Now this town will be mentioned in the extract, so just be aware of this.

But first –

In today’s society, we are bombarded with images of perceived perfect beauty. Just yesterday, I saw a news story about a Lass in the UK who has won a competition for having the most scientifically  measured beauty in Great Britain.

So I got to thinking, what is beauty and why is it that some people can look beautiful on the outside and yet when they speak, they become ugly, while others do not possess obvious good looks, yet when they speak, they light up the room with beauty.

I think Khalil Gibran sums it up beautifully in this extract….

“And a poet said, ‘Speak to us of Beauty.’

And he answered:

‘Where shall you seek beauty, and how shall you find her unless she herself be your way and your guide?

And how shall you speak of her except she be the weaver of your speech?

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The aggrieved and the injured say, ‘Beauty is kind and gentle.  Like a young mother, half-shy of her own glory, she walks among us.’

And the passionate say, ‘Nay, beauty is a thing of might and dread.  Like the tempest she shakes the Earth beneath us and the sky above us’

The tired and the weary say, ‘Beauty is of soft whisperings. She speaks in our spirit.  Her voice yields to our silences like a faint light that quivers in fear of the shadow.’

But the restless say, ‘We have heard her shouting among the mountains, and with her cries came the sound of hoofs and the beating of wings and the roaring of lions.’

At night the watchmen of the city say, ‘Beauty shall rise with the dawn from the East.’

And at noontide the toilers and the wayfarers say, ‘We have seen her leaning over the Earth from the windows of the sunset.’

In winter say the snow-bound, ‘She shall come with the spring leaping upon the hills.’

And in the summer heat the reapers say, ‘We have seen her dancing with the autumn leaves, and we saw a drift of snow in her hair’

All these things have you said of beauty,

Yet in truth you spoke not of her, but of needs unsatisfied.

And beauty is not a need, but and ecstasy.  It is not a mouth thirsting nor an empty hand stretching forth,

But rather a heart inflamed and a soul enchanted.  It is not the image you would see nor the song you would hear,

But rather an image you see though you close your eyes and a song you hear though you shut your ears.

It is not the sap within the furrowed bark, nor a wing attached to a claw,

But rather a garden forever in bloom and a flock of angels for ever in flight.

People of Orphalese, beauty is life, when life unveils her holy face.

But YOU are LIFE and YOU are the VEIL.

Beauty is eternity gazing at itself in a mirror.

But YOU are ETERNITY and YOU are the MIRROR.

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The Artisans Have It!

 

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Do you ever visit or live in a town with a big artisan population?  I love going to these towns. Just recently, my family and I went up to the Sunshine Coast Hinterland to celebrate my mother’s birthday . We ate some cheese at a boutique cheese factory and enjoyed the views to the ocean from the veranda of the old Mapleton Pub.

The thing that strikes me about artisans is the love they put into their work.  I think it would be a rare artisan who is not in love with their craft.  As we all know, love is so very important in daily life, the expression of love into objects always translates into beauty.  Mother Earth gives us this all the time, with the simplest gifts of flowers and birds, butterflies and beetles.  But humans are also capable of creating love in beauty.

Artisans can teach us so much about working with love. The appreciation for the time they put into their work is unavoidable.  Take a stained glass lamp for example.  The artisan will have stained the glass and sketched a plan, they would have soldered it all together and wired it up.  Time, and love and thought goes into every piece.

How many of you find that this same process goes into your job?  Most of us hate our work and we are only there because it pays the bills.  But what if we were to change our view for just a moment?  What if we were bored out of our brains with our job, but we were to make doing the job a game?  What if we disliked our colleagues, but we were good at our job; couldn’t we play nice and feel the freedom of not being caught up in the office politics?  By putting a little love into our working lives, we too could be like the artisans and find the quality in our work.  You always have a choice and it is your choice to stay in a job that is creating a negative issue in your life.  It is simple to say, ‘no more, I am looking for a new job’. Or, ‘I am going to find out how to learn more, to get into another industry or to climb the corporate ladder’… Or ‘I am going to feel the heart in this job, so I can at least enjoy it while I am here’.

We all have to work, even those who stay at home have to work.  No one gets out of it.  For some of my day I do paid work and for some of my day, I do home duties.  This is because I have kids.  I have to be there for them.  It means I have two jobs.  I am rarely off my feet watching the TV.  Sometimes I hate cooking again or doing the washing again.  But I have chosen to put as much love into the mundane tasks in my day, as the tasks I enjoy.  I love my job, so I put allot of love into that.  I love my family so I put allot of love into the jobs that support them.

Learn from the artisans, work like you love it and love will reward you with beauty. Whatever beauty,  is for you.  Make choices about your work, that suit you and be brave enough to change your attitude to your work.  So as you can begin to love it, until it ends.

I’ll finish this spiritual comment with a quote from my ‘inspirational messages of love cards’

‘Before enlightenment – feed people and wash dishes, after enlightenment – feed people and wash dishes.

The mundane does not have to be dreary, if you put a little love into it.

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Who is your Mother?

Today (the 8th of may) is my beautiful Mother’s 70th birthday and every 7 years, as the calender goes, my Mother’s birthday also falls on Mothers day.  So I thought I’d use this comment to celebrate my Mother and Mothers around the world.

We can all say what a good Mother does, but when we look at our own Mothers, I wonder how often we think about who they are?

My Mother has a name, she is named after her Aunt, but that is not who she is.  Who she is, is a good, kind generous person, who has a practical nature and a sharp and intelligent mind.  She is someone who will help a friend and a stranger, if they are in need, she is someone who loves craft and music and who bakes a mean lasagna.  She is a person who likes to travel and explore, who has fun because she got lost, and has fun finding her way back.

She is all these things, but what does she do in the world?

Well my Mum is a triple certificated Registered Nurse and Midwife.  She helped thousands of women become Mothers over her 40 year career in the UK and here in Australia.  She has delivered thousands of babies and nurtured thousands of new borns in the  humidy cribs, too sick to stay with their Mothers in the first fragile days of life.  She has educated Indigenous People about health matters and travelled to remote townships to live with them, when she taught them this vital work.  She has vaccinated thousands of children, saving their lives from the tyranny of disease.

So I know who she is and what she did, but how does she now spend her days?  Well now she is retired, she spends her days creating amazing quilts and items of clothing, by sewing and knitting.  She sells them and she gives them away.  Each piece gives her so much pleasure that she is always planning ahead to the next.  When she is not doing this, she is making music on her Piano or her Guitar.  She sometimes watches Agatha Christie murder mysteries on the TV while she sews and she loves to watch Shakespearian plays and Opera.

But when is she happiest?

I think she is happiest when she is with the people who love her most.  When she is with her family.  When she is with the people she feels most at ease with, her people.  The ones who love her back unconditionally.  She is happy when she is with her friends; she has a group of friends all who graduated Nursing at the same time, still all alive and living near each other.  These women have seen each other through life’s triumphs and tragedies and yet, they remain close and supportive of each other as they have come to the retirement years of their lives.

And so why am I telling you this?  Because I took the time to get to know my Mother.  To learn that she is not a 1 dimensional person.   She is my Mum, the one I think of when I am in distress and the one I think to call on to tell my good news to first.  She is the one person who I feel I can hold onto no matter what, she is my soft place to fall.  But she is not just that.  She didn’t just raise  my brothers and I, she also had a career and friends and interests.  She continued to learn and gain Degrees and Certifications long into her 50’s.

Sometimes it’s easy to categorise a person, in what they do for us, and to see little of whom they are apart from that.  This Mothers Day, I hope that you can see your Mother for all of her self and no matter what your relationship may be with her at this time in your lives, be grateful that she gave you the gift of life.  For the greatest gift we children can give to our Mothers, is to use the life we have been given, well and to make them proud.  For Motherhood is full of self-sacrifice for the sake of seeing your child live and thrive.  Make that sacrifice count.

I love you Mum, happy birthday.

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SELF-TALK LIKE A WINNER!

I was watching a show about people losing weight recently and there was a young man on the show who didn’t know how to think like an athlete. His trainer was getting extremely frustrated with him, as it was obvious he was floundering around. When he finally asked the young man, what the bleep are you thinking when you are doing this exercise, the young guy said, I don’t know what to think!
This prompted me to look at other situations in life when people don’t actually know what to think in a situation. When I exercise, I think to my self, ok you’ve gone 5 min but you’ve ridden 1 mile so keep it up only 6 more miles to go, then after 4 and a half miles I say to myself, you are half way now, good work, push through the pain and keep going. Then I count  down the time or the miles I ride. Until I complete he task. If I’m doing resistance training it’s counting the reps and telling myself to feel the burn and push through it. I have a self talk which allows me to work through the pain of excercise in order to make the achievement of a great work out. I finish with endorphins released and fat burning away, muscles pumped and me sweating profusely. But I feel so much better for it.
So what about someone who is studying. Many of us want to take up study but as an adult, it’s a daunting task. So we have to talk ourselves through it in a similar way. Say you have two Uni assignments to do, you would tell yourself, ok time to research this assignment and brainstorm the subject. Done that, now I have to complete the essay so it make sence and applys to the requirements of the professor. Just a few more thousand words, now to spell check, ok review, done yes!
It is a great feeling when you are able to submit an assignment ahead of time, because you have talked yourself into the work and you have talked yourself through it.
We use self talk all the time, but how often do you talk to yourself as if you are going to make an achievement? How often do you give yourself set goals within the task as you are doing it to keep yourself moving? What about that great feeling when it’s done!? That is a great feeling.
The difference between winning and losing is in the self talk we encourage within ourselves. If you are always feeling like you can’t win, then learn to apply this to simple tasks like the washing up, or the folding. Take small chunks out of the pile until it’s all done. The feeling of achievement is a boost and it is a stepping stone to the next achievement and the next.
Life is just a set of tasks all set out for us each day, they may vary and they may each have different categories and challenges, but we still have them. From the time you awaken to the time you fall asleep, you have tasks to do.
How about getting yourself a little challenged today and set a new task, talk yourself through it and feel the boost of achievement.

You’ll be glad you did.

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PROTECT YOURSELF FROM CONCEIT!

As a spiritual person, do you ever come across conceited attitudes from others, who think that they are somehow better than you, because they don’t subscribe to your beliefs?
In the past I have often experience this attitude, although it used to really bother me at first, these days I find it to be quite amusing.
Should you ever meet me and you didn’t know what I do, then I would not be going out of my way to tell you. Simply because I don’t like to display who I am and what I do on my sleeve. I keep myself to myself and allow this part of who I am to be slowly revealed over time. It is at that time, that I find out if I’m dealing with a person who can cope with me or a person who needs to put up a barrier of conceit and make out I am less than in order for them to feel they are not being challenged in any way. I havn’t just had this expression put upon me because of my beliefs either, sometimes it’s because I didn’t finish my degree, or because I have kids with special needs, sometimes it’s because of the car I drive or because of my country of birth.
I don’t really care where the attitude comes from, I just know that if you come across a person who is projecting an attitude that they are better than you, it’s time to feel even more solid in who you are. In that moment, you cannot allow their attitude to affect you. You need to believe in who you are, know in yourself how far you have come and stand strong in that. You don’t need to buy into a conversation about it or even acknowledge their attitude, just be quietly confident and self accepting.

Of course later on, you may need to vent. You may need to re-group and you may need to even cry. But don’t let that attitude of conceit affect you in the moment that it hits. This is an attitude that is projected by people who don’t understand or havn’t taken the time to learn. They feel something inside themselves that is inadequate and they need to project that onto you.

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You are perfect in this moment and in this moment; you are the person with the power of you. Don’t let anyone else affect you. …… Continue on your path of self evolution and believe in your rightful place on this earth.

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ANIMAL KIND ARE JUST AS IMPORTANT

Today I’m thinking of my good friends Sue and Roy who lost their beautiful dog yesterday.

Bella was a little Dog with a big heart, but she was more than a dog, she was family.

As Humans, sometimes we can forget that the other life forms on this planet are just as important as us, we can forget that they love and that they have emotions, thoughts and capabilities that can go beyond our bodies own capacities.

Animals may not occupy a Human form, but this makes them no lesser than us.  In fact, I’d go as far as to say that I’ve met some very upstanding citizens who occupy animal bodies, who could put some Humans to shame in their expression of who they are and what their values in life are for them.

Getting back to families, I have a big family, but only 4 of the members of my family are human kind.  The other family members are Fish kind, Feline kind, K9 kind, Bird kind and reptile kind.  This is an inter-species family and I know my family is not the only one. Many homes throughout the world have animals who are daughters and sons to the human parents also.  This is no more apparent than when you have a Dog.  The pup needs toilet trained, disciplined and taught manners, it needs to be trained commands and how to play nicely.  The dog needs most of all love.  And I think this is for me, the biggest gift  any of my non-human family members have for me.  Love, unconditional love.  It is oozing out of them.  They want for nothing but food, shelter and love.  They don’t care about the latest gadgets, who’s on TV or what you are wearing.  I think they probably think we look a bit strange because we don’t have any fur or feathers and have so much more work to keep ourselves clean and clothed than they do.  But they don’t care, they just want to love us anyway.  Because to them, we humans are their pack, their flock, their school, we are their pride.  We are their family, so why do so many people forget that and think of themselves as higher up than the animals who are in their homes?  Why do they think of them as outside of their families?  Why?  I don’t understand why, because to me, it’s obvious that they have just as much right to be here as me, they have just as much of a beautiful heart and mind as any of my Human children and they have just as active a mind and feelings as any Human I know.

You know, not all Humans can be themselves all day, every day, un ashamedly…Animals can.

My animal children have taught me about love, humility, friendship, death,  kindness and compassion.   My house is no home without them and my life would simply be incomplete without the love of my family.  Tonight, my friends grieve for their Dog Daughter Bella.  She couldn’t live as long as them, but her life was so significant, that she has enriched them in ways they cannot explain and she has touched the hearts of all who knew her.  How many animal children do you know who are in your family or the family of someone you know?  Love knows no boundaries, no one body type has the monopoly on it and love and life are the most precious gifts we have for each other, in whatever body we occupy at the time.

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BEHAVIOUR AT FUNERALS

We all have differing values and morals in life.  Working as a Funeral Celebrant I see this in motion, at times when people are in the most pain and therefore holding up less of a guard.   In this kind of environment, stereotypes are often broken as people from all walks of life must enter the chapel.

This situation of values and morals was no more evident to me, than during a week of back to back Funerals and memorial services, that I performed.  During this week, I met three families, all from diverse backgrounds.  One had a father who had passed away in a far off town and the children couldn’t get to him for the funeral, so they held a memorial service for him.  The next was a family who lost a middle aged daughter to the complications of diabetes.  The third was a club of Bikies, who lost a brother in arms to a brain tumour.

Of the three services I did that week, who would you think showed the most respect to their fallen loved one?  The children with the memorial, the family with the diabetic daughter, or the Bikies with their brother in arms?

Most people would point a finger and say ‘the children didn’t even get up to say goodbye to their Dad, they must have been rude and hard to deal with’, or they may think  the Bikies are often organised crime people, so they would have been drunk or on illicit drugs.  Well would it surprise you to know that in fact the Bikie funeral was the biggest of the three services and it was the one that was treated with the most respect?  All the people there were dressed in their finery and they were all sombre and respectful the staff conducting the service, including me and to their lost brother.    By contrast, the family who lost their daughter to diabetes, were rude and loud.  With people in the back row of the chapel calling out and disrupting the service.  Many of them arrived  in the clothes they slept in, with stains and crinkles on their shirts.

The memorial service, was a quiet affair, with the adult children dressed appropriately and the mood was of laughter and tears, as a good memorial or funeral should be.

That week in my life, showed me that you cannot ever judge a book by its cover.  Bikies get a lot of bad press, but when it comes to the rites of passage in life and in death, they uphold the highest of morals and values.  Children who cannot make it to their Father’s graveside, still love their Father and choose to remember him well, but families who never held much respect for themselves and their own, will always show that side to themselves when the time comes to say goodbye.

Funerals are about the living, in as much as, the living are the ones left behind.  They are about honouring the life well lived and the person who was living that life.  They are a time to remember yourself and keep your values and morals in check.  Many family arguments erupt around the time of the passing of a loved one.  Should you find yourself involved in this situation, ask yourself, would my deceased loved one want this to be happening?

We all must face this passage, be it to farewell another or to be farewelled, how you conduct yourself is not about your socio economic status, your religion or your culture, it is about your personal values and your morals, inside of you.  And believe me; they will be on display for all to see.