Like many people, I am always trying to improve aspects of my Life. Earlier this year, I attended a small business seminar. At Morning Tea, I met a young lady who was very interested in my occupation and in particular my thoughts on Fate. In fact she hit me with a barrage of questions…from ‘Is it true that you chose your parents?’ To – ‘are we meant to meet certain people or go to certain places, or is that all just random and coincidental?’
Now, I have a Christian friend, who explains Fate as a well orchestrated element of God’s plan, and I have a Sceptic, Atheist friend, who says that Fate is not at all even a reality of Life. That all the events in a person’s life are a net result of their past decisions and of total, random coincidence.
Well, I guess I sit somewhere in between these two explanations…because I do think that parts of our lives are meant to be and I also agree that the decisions of the past dictate the events of our future and also that random coincidence plays it’s part.
I do believe that we all have the power to create our own Fate, by changing our thinking patterns and by taking more of a conscious role in the development of how our life plays out. But for the purposes of this Blog, I am just going to focus on the decisions you laid down, before you chose to Incarnate.
So, getting back to my story… I said to the young lady; let’s start at the beginning of all the Human lifetimes of your Soul.
Before you chose to incarnate as a Human Being, it makes sense to me that you would make a map of your Life. I imagine you would work it out on a big white board. On the left hand side of the board you would have the goals you have set for what lessons you would like to learn, on the right hand side, you would have the goals you have set for what skills you would like to learn. Now, you are a new Incarnation, so you won’t have too many relationship goals, probably just to get along with everyone and for everyone to do the same with you. We are all positive creatures in our purest form.
In the centre of the white board, you would have written what culture you would like to be a part of, and what gender you wish to be, this is important. Should you choose to be a Female say in a culture that is fundamentally paternal, you will be setting your lifetime up to be full of bondage and restriction. Thus your lessons will be very hard. Should you choose to be a female in a culture that is very moderate toward the genders; you will find you have a freer existence. It goes without saying that, with your parents’ culture, comes your parents’ religion. This will play a major part in how you view the world and how you perceive, the world views the likes of you.
So, you’ve chosen your culture, religion and your gender, now, you need to choose some parents. There are billions of people of breeding age in the Planet? How would a new soul do that? It makes sense to me that there would be a mentor there with the new soul. A guide who would help them to lock onto the kind of parents they need. It also makes sense to me that they would look into an Orical of sorts. A spiritual divination device if you will, in order to ‘see’ all the possible combinations of parents out there.
Before I go on, I want to add, that I don’t believe that all the people who suffer from famine and extreme hardships in 3rd world countries are first time incarnations. It makes sense to me that there would be incarnations in that situation there from many stages in the soul’s evolution. This environment would force a Human to grow. It may be a place for karmic punishment or for karmic greatness, depending on the will of the soul who has chosen this culture. ( I felt I needed to add this point, as it is an often asked question by clients, who wish to discuss this subject.)
So, now you have chosen your parents, you will be bound to the abundance of or, lack thereof siblings, that will come along with those two individuals as parents. You will be bound to the circle of family and the circle of friends who are linked into those parents’ lives. You will be now bound to your parents’ fate. Your parent’s decisions about their family before they were born. You will be bound to the talents they have and the interest or lack thereof, from them to share their knowledge with you. You will be bound to your parents’ financial circumstances. You are now on a fateful path. But there is more…You have a list of things you wish to learn. There is only so much your parents can teach you. Because of this list, you will find yourself placed in a particular school and therefore, you will meet particular people as school chums or enemies and teachers. You may not go to formal school, but find teachers along the way…You will have a unique to you school experience.
There is also a list of skills you wish to learn. It is from this list that your soul will drive your mind to seek these interests out. Because of these interests and because of your circumstances and the decisions of your parents, you will meet particular people who will guide you on your path to new skills.
Lessons can be about anything. One of your lessons as a new soul may be to overcome Illness, so as you can keep a healthy mindset in the following lifetimes and enjoy a healthy body for a few lifetimes. So, you may choose to incarnate with heart condition or cerebral palsy. Thus your decision to choose these particular parents, changes the course of their destiny. It cuts both ways. Of course there are many reasons why you may choose to come back as disabled or to become disabled during that lifetime…but this is just an example.
Then there are the random events, well some of them are anyway. Sometimes you are just walking along and something bad happens and it’s just a random thing…Like when I was working with the Psychic Extravaganza (a business that operates out of shopping centres in Brisbane) and I was on my lunch break. The shopping Centre was packed with teenagers, because it was school holidays. I had only a short break and I was on a mission to get to the Chemist. I walked past a clothing shop and a girl fainted in front of me right under my foot, mid stride. I had no choice but to step over her or I was on my face too! When I had found my feet and I turned to help, there were many people already holding her and calling an ambulance. I was not needed. That was totally random!
But then there was the circumstance of me becoming gravely ill when I was 19 and my parents insisting I come home to them for a rest. I was a young woman and I wanted to get out of the house. AC/DC were playing a concert and some of my friends were going and they arranged with me to meet them at a club afterward. I went to the club, but they didn’t show. Instead I met a man and I began a friendship with him. He was later to become the father of my children and one of the biggest regrets of my life. Now I’m certain, that meeting him was not totally random. That was fate.
Where things begin to get complicated is when you, The Soul, are deeper into your incarnation journey. You have been on the Earth plane for a few lifetimes and you have begun to form attachments to certain other Souls and thus you are part of a circle of people who are bound to meet again and again in order to play out their karma until they grow enough to move on to the next circle. Each circle of Souls is like a family, and in that family there is good and bad relationships. So, you see, as your Soul grows, so does the entwining of others into the path of the Soul. It is inevitable that dramas must be played out and most of this is agreed upon before reincarnation.
Now, what if there is one who is going to incarnate into the circle after most have already been born? This is when the Souls meet while the living sleep. Because when we sleep, our body goes into a stasis, thus leaving our Spirit to move about freely. This is when some people Astral Travel and it is when the Souls of those who are in a Soul Circle will be able to confer and make agreements as to who plays what part in who’s lessons. Or, what if there is a Soul who is to incarnate before all the others are ready, say after the 4th generation of the circle has finally passed away, back to spirit? They will be the trail blazer for the others to follow and this will all be planned out, in spirit before that reincarnation takes place…the others, may stay back and Guide the trail blazer and then one by one reincarnate in turn.
If you would like to read about fate further and form your own opinion, please have a look at Neal Donald Walsh’s book Tomorrow’s God. He has a wonderful explanation of Reincarnation and fate. Arthur Guirdham has written an amazing book called ‘We are One Another’ which describes how a group of people, who had lived together as Cathars in France yr 1242, reincarnated in England in the 20th Century. It is a very spiritual and methodical approach to this subject. It is also a book full of the history of this sometime forgotten sect of Christianity..The Cathars.
Fate is not your enemy or some conspiracy from God in his master plan. It is not really all just random and coincidence either. It is a carefully constructed map of people, cultures and places that you need to be a part of, in order for you to achieve your soul’s goals that you and your mentor set out all those years ago, while you were still in spirit.